i miss my ex girlfriend so much it hurts

I miss my ex girlfriend so much it hurts – what should I do?

by Kevin Tunstall
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I miss my ex-girlfriend so much it hurts, what should I do? 

It could be really difficult to get over your ex.

You give your everything to the relationship but it doesn’t always work out and could leave you broken.

Some people look back for hours about all the good times they had with their ex imagining what could have been.

Often during these times, you begin to feel regret for things you may have said or not done – and you desire you could initiate over or take some of the comments back.

With this in your subconscious, it is obvious that you will attempt to reclaim her in the immediate future.

If You just can’t get her out of your mind then this article will help you.

What To Do When You Miss Your Ex?

It’s normal to miss your ex and it takes time to completely get over someone you used to love so much.

But there are a few things you could do which help you get over her faster.

Allow yourself to cry over past experiences.

Your good times are with you for the rest of your life, unless you have a serious head injury and suffer from amnesia.

People often suppress their pain and bad feelings which then continue to haunt them for the rest of their lives.

You will only repress them if you force yourself to forget them, and they will ultimately reappear and you will never get over it.

Allow your tears to flow as you reflect on your past.

It’s better to cry once instead of suppressing that pain.

Cry as much as you want, but remember to never cry over that thing again.

Remember the reasons why you want to move on.

There may come a point when your feelings surpass your justifications, and you will want to reunite with your ex.

You might even try convincing yourself that being in a bad relationship is preferable to being alone and in pain.

If you ever find yourself in this position it’s time to think again about why you broke up and why you want to move on.

If it helps, create a list of the reasons why do you need to get over your ex.

It may be the things she did all the time that harmed you, or it could be the downsides of being in that relationship.

List down the upsides of the breakup, list down your personal and professional goals, and always remember them.

Make it a source of motivation to better yourself.

You can use this feeling to either waste your life crying over it or you can use it as motivation and do something good with your life.

You can be more positive about your situation instead of wallowing in self-pity and ruining yourself.

Use your pain as a motivator to improve yourself.

Self-grooming will make you feel better in addition to being another way to divert your attention.

You can start going to the gym regularly or go for a daily morning jog.

You can also start changing your wardrobe for a change of style.

You can also get a total makeover by investing in skin and hair care.

Exercise! It will make your body healthier and your mind clearer, leaving less room for their thoughts!

Focus on your career or do something that you always wanted to do.

You should also keep in mind that reverting to your old habits is not a good idea.

Try New Things.

It’s completely normal for us to be depressed about everything after what just happened.

And, when dealing with such feelings, we don’t always consider the possibility of losing someone we care about and spending the majority of our time alone.

When people go through a difficult breakup, they tend to turn to self-destructive behaviors (such as drinking too much). 

Everything reminds you of her.

Trying new activities that are both healthy and enjoyable for you will take your mind off of them.

Whether you’re meeting up with friends or going on a date, having some company will not only distract you from what you’re missing in your life, but it will also help lift up your emotions.

Go out, travel, explore new places, visit new restaurants, indulge in some adventure sports.

The thing is trying out new things will get your mind off the breakup and give you a new perspective that will help you move on in your life.

Participate in Charity Events by Volunteering Your Time.

It will not only make you feel better about yourself, but it will also help others who are in even worse situations than you are.

Help those who are in a worse situation than you.

Giving back can help you regain a sense of balance in your life by giving meaning to the situation you’re in.

You will also feel a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment, which will not only help you move forward but will also make you feel better about yourself.

You might even meet new people through charity work, which could lead to new friendships!

As long as it does not necessitate a significant amount of time (or money), it will not place undue strain on your schedule or divert your attention away from your primary goal.

Visit Religious Sites.

It makes no difference whether you are a Catholic, a Buddhist, or simply an atheist!

Visiting religious sites will provide you with a sense of peace, enlightenment, and calm.

It can also serve to remind you of your values or to make you feel safe and secure that nothing bad will happen to you.

Even if you don’t believe in it, just visiting there can provide calmness.

Most temples also have volunteering work that you can participate in which again will help you immensely.

Enrol into some Class Or Course!

If you spend all day watching tv and thinking about her then it’s time to work on your life.

Get enrolled in some class or short-term course.

You’ll get something to get your mind off her and you will get to learn something new.

You will also get to meet some new people which again will be very beneficial.

It never hurts to have yet another talent, even if you don’t end up using it in your daily life; it will give you something to do to take your mind off the breakup.

It could be anything be it cooking, dancing, singing, guitar lessons, or anything that interests you.

Go For counselling.

There is still a lot of stigma around mental health in our society but it is completely okay to seek professional help to achieve good mental health.

This is something you should consider if other things don’t work for you.

it will undoubtedly help you get through the difficult times if you can’t stop thinking about your ex.

If you cannot afford to see a counselor, there are free or affordable counselors and support groups that you can look for.

Finding someone you can trust and who is willing to listen to you will help you relax and allow you to open up about the issues that are bothering you.

Don’t be afraid to share your story and get it off your chest! Allow others to assist you in carrying your burdens by opening up.

A good counselor will give you the right approach to get over and deal with the bad thoughts.

the bottom line:

You should know that It takes time to recover from a painful breakup.

Pressuring yourself to forget about your ex is not recommended as it will only make the process more difficult.

Just as we let wounds heal on their own, the best thing you can do to fix your soul is to admit the pain, deal with reality, and be optimistic about the future.

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About the author

Kevin Tunstall

Kevin is a Men's dating and image consultant. He writes about relationships and lifestyle-related topics on Dapperclan. He loves helping men improve themselves and to achieve meaningful relationships.


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